Love is the Answer to Jerks

What would God say to a rude person? Love is the Answer to Jerks, read at

One of the hardest parts of doing this blog and writing my books has been the thought that someday my introverted self will probably have to deal with an unpleasant person who disagrees with me. I don’t like people assuming things about me without taking the effort to know me. I was thinking about this one morning and wondering what I would say in response, and God asked me “Well, what would I say?”

That pulled me up short. What would God say?

I love you.

“I’m going to steal and lie.” I love you.

“I’m going to love a man instead of a woman.” I love you.

“I’m going to kill your son.” I love you.

“I think you’re a figment of ignorant imagination.” I love you.

If someone were to say to me, because of my writing, “I think you’re a stupid idiot.” I’m hoping I’ll say “I love you.” And that I’ll be so full of Jesus, that they’ll know what I said was true.

The Bible says in Proverbs 15 that a soft answer turns away wrath. What answer could be softer than “I love you”?

As I grow closer to Jesus, and the Holy Spirit has greater freedom to change me and grow His fruit in me -the fruits of love, peace, gentleness, meekness, long-suffering- I will be less disturbed by the opinions of others, less prideful in my personal rights for respect and consideration.

I hesitated to write this post, because I know my shortcomings. I am NOT meek like Moses was when the Israelites attacked his leadership. I have a fiery, stubborn, assertive disposition. But I know that this post will be good accountability for me. I’m hoping that God will bring it back to my mind if I ever encounter such a situation. Simply writing it out has helped make a more concrete impression on my heart and spirit.

In the face of ignorance or evil, choose love.

For more posts about Love, my word for 2017, check out my Love Series page.

Bible quote Proverbs 15 - What answer could be softer than I Love You?

  1. Yes…you are so right about that “soft answer”… I want to be able to give as the Lord would have me when I am confronted with the hard. I, too, shy away from those hard people and struggle when I have them in my face. I thank you for sharing this today. I want that ready answer, not only about Jesus, but in response to difficult questions, tough words that offend. “I love you” is truly a beautiful reply.

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    • Haha! Have you noticed that ‘idiot’ is Disney’s mean cartoon word? Pretty much in any of the older movies that’s the word used when calling names… I can hear Cruella DeVil now…”You idiots!” ;D


  2. We all get pretty fiesty when it comes to our right to be respected, but Philippians 2 says, “In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant.” thank you for this reminder to love today!

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  3. I think that we need to rely on the Holy Spirit to give us the words to speak at the time we need them. While we definitely need a ‘gentle answer’, we also need to speak the truth. There were times when Jesus was tender and soft, but also when he spoke strong words that didn’t cause warm feelings, but division and separation. I mean, calling the pharisees a ‘brood of vipers’ and ‘white-washed tombs’ didn’t leave a lot of warm fuzzies in the crowd. So sometimes we need to be firm in our responses realizing that soft-peddling the truth isn’t always the real response of love. thanks for you post!

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    • Very true Karen…I’m glad you brought up the Holy Spirit, since God is needed in order to know how we are to speak the truth. Love isn’t always soft and fuzzy, and if that’s the impression I gave, then I regret that. Sometimes it’s the absolute hardest thing to endure. Ephesians says to speak the truth in love, and I haven’t a doubt that Christ when He said those things was still actually being loving…because sometimes love is telling them what they need to hear, even if they don’t like it. Also in Proverbs it says “faithful are the wounds of a friend” because true, loving friends are honest even when it hurts. I am not an advocate of dumbing down the truth, or God’s word. God doesn’t need me to apologize for Him. Thank you for bringing that up!


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