What do you do, when another church member’s idea of love doesn’t match with your idea of love? I know some of y’all have heard about the book describing the 5 love languages, and that everyone has their own way of feeling loved, but what about when that crosses over into our church relationships? Do you see all of the people at your church as family…people that God intended for you to invest in?
You cannot know what love is to them if you never get to know them.
Philippians 1:9 says that our love should abound more and more in knowledge. Knowledge of the Bible, and knowledge of each other. Without a closer knowledge of your church members’ characters, it is easy to have misunderstandings. Knowing that an action is done out of love makes it palatable, no matter how distasteful to you. You can understand the spirit behind the action, regardless of the action itself.
The Bible describes our church family as His connective body. How can you work together in understanding and fluid motion when the most you ever interact with them is to smile and wave as your getting out of your car on Sunday?
It’s going to be difficult, because most of them don’t want to be vulnerable to people who don’t seem to care about them.
Why should they care about you, when you’ve never cared about them? When is the last time you actually wanted to hear about their week…enough to ask for specific details? Or, are you satisfied when they simply respond with “good”? Shoot someone a text (not your best friend that you do nursery with) this week. Buy someone a small gift. Get someone their favorite candy on their birthday. If someone is going through a difficult time, pray with them right there; and then offer to take them out for coffee, or clean their house, or watch their kids.
These are all things that could almost always be seen as acts of love.
Look around your church, and ask yourself “Who have I ignored or overlooked?” It’s time to get off of our own agenda, and onto God’s. God’s agenda is always Love.