Love that Knows


What do you do, when another church member’s idea of love doesn’t match with your idea of love? I know some of y’all have heard about the book describing the 5 love languages, and that everyone has their own way of feeling loved, but what about when that crosses over into our church relationships? Do you see all of the people at your church as family…people that God intended for you to invest in?

You cannot know what love is to them if you never get to know them. 

Philippians 1:9 says that our love should abound more and more in knowledge. Knowledge of the Bible, and knowledge of each other. Without a closer knowledge of your church members’ characters, it is easy to have misunderstandings. Knowing that an action is done out of love makes it palatable, no matter how distasteful to you. You can understand the spirit behind the action, regardless of the action itself.

The Bible describes our church family as His connective body. How can you work together in understanding and fluid motion when the most you ever interact with them is to smile and wave as your getting out of your car on Sunday?

It’s going to be difficult, because most of them don’t want to be vulnerable to people who don’t seem to care about them. 

Why should they care about you, when you’ve never cared about them? When is the last time you actually wanted to hear about their week…enough to ask for specific details? Or, are you satisfied when they simply respond with “good”? Shoot someone a text (not your best friend that you do nursery with) this week. Buy someone a small gift. Get someone their favorite candy on their birthday. If someone is going through a difficult time, pray with them right there; and then offer to take them out for coffee, or clean their house, or watch their kids.

These are all things that could almost always be seen as acts of love.

Look around your church, and ask yourself “Who have I ignored or overlooked?” It’s time to get off of our own agenda, and onto God’s. God’s agenda is always Love.

To read other posts in the 2017 Love series: 2017: LoveComing Clean: The Ugly Truth, and Love & Grace Collide

  1. These are such practical suggestions for showing love to our brothers and sisters in Christ. Thank you for sharing. Blessings to you! I’m your neighbor at #Monday’sMusings.

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    • Oh, Donna! Believe you me, I’m pretty sure that’s why God gave me the word “love” this year, cause I need to work on it!!! Blessings to you too! 💕😊


  2. I never thought about the 5 love languages crossing over to the church. I do try really hard to show people love, because I have been on the receiving end of those who think they’re doing you a favor by saying, “Hi, how are you?” as they hurry by, obviously too busy to really wait for an answer. Although, I’ve probably done that to people out in the world, if not in the church.
    This is definitely good food for thought. I was kind of wondering about a sweet young lady that I gave a gift to in an effort to show her love, and she didn’t respond the way I thought she would; maybe gift-giving is not her love language! Go figure! 🙂
    Thanks for making this great point. I guess we all need to try harder.

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  3. Hi Liz,
    Great points! It’s not often people really do these things. Just the little things to let someone know they matter. My struggle is finding balance. I’ve always enjoyed being this way, however I find that I neglect my close family and friends often because I am so busy trying to do the little extras for too many others. Funny, how we learn to lean into God no matter our natural bend or gifting! Thanks for sharing this hope with us at #MomentsofHope! I’m so glad you are coming alongside me to point to Jesus!
    Blessings and smiles,

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    • I tend to focus on outward ministry and forget that we’re also to minister to each other! I end up forgetting that people IN the church have just as many needs and problems as those without 😬😅


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